Kim and I have been married now for a little over two months. The gifts have been properly stored, the 'Thank You' cards have been written and sent, and the magical aura of being newly weds is slowly starting to wear off....(Nah, I just made that last part up).
My point though, is that we are starting to get into a regular routine of life which is good.
Here is a list of some of the lessons that I have learned concerning marriage these past two months:
1. Your wife WILL call you out if you habitually leave the toilet seat up.
2. Expectations need to properly be communicated BEFORE the marriage and DURING the marriage. The majority of disagreements stem from expectations that the spouse has that have been programmed or conditioned into their being through their rearing or past relationships.
3. When your wife is venting at you do not take it as a personal attack or quickly give an answer. Sympathize!
4. Thank your wife for making dinner....EVEN if it's leftovers.
5. Statistically, a husband has a 33% increase of being physically intimate with his wife if he helps clean-up and do the dishes after dinner (Read this in a Dr. Smalley book). I do the dishes after every meal....just ask my wife.
6. Husbands are the designed leaders of the family. While we are a team God has designed the marriage relationship to work when the man is the spiritual protector and initiator.
7. Never go to bed angry at each other.
8. Understand each other's pasts because it has helped shape the who each spouse is today.
9. Pray together.
10. Satan will do what he can to drive a wedge between a husband and a wife.
11. Be spontaneous.
12. Do some things even if you do not enjoy doing them. Do them because you want to honor your spouse (i.e. any household chore and different dating excursions).
13. Make sure your spouse can express themself and flourish to how God has created them.
14. Try new things.
15. Remind your wife that you would marry her again today.
Every Kiss begins with Kim!
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